A New Family

So,

it's now 14 and a half weeks and everything looks fine. The midwife visited last week and we heard the baby's heartbeat. The 12 week scan showed no problems, and finally I am relaxing! But I spent the first 12 weeks of this pregnancy convinced I would miscarry at any moment. I spent time on the web searching for my symptoms (or lack of symptoms) and what they might mean. In case anyone else gets crazy like me, I thought I'd list all the things that worried me, needlessly. If these things happen to you too - they're not a sign of impending doom!

• Pains. About 4 weeks (just the 2 days after my period was due), I had fairly constant moderately bad pain in my lower abdomen. The GP suggested it might be a sign of ectopic pregnancy, but they faded over the next day and haven't come back. Maybe my uterus was welcoming a new guest?
• No symptoms. Everything I read said sore breasts are the commonest early sign of pregnancy. So when mine were sore, it was comforting. But then they'd suddenly feel absolutely normal - sore for a week, or a couple of days, then nothing for another several days. That was the most scariest, after Cagney's miscarriage which was preceded by a loss of symptoms. But, again, everything was fine. The soreness normally returned after a few days (although they've now been pretty much pain free since 10 weeks).
• No nausea/vomitting. Really. Absolutely none! I got really lucky here, but again, at the time, took it as a bad sign. But not every woman gets morning sickness. Some (about 20%) don't!
• More pains. At various times I'd have brief sharp pains, or longer period-like cramps. The web suggested these were scary only if accompanied by bleeding (which they weren't). I'm now getting used to them - figure it's the uterus stretching.

So. Maybe this is useful for you. Maybe it's useful for me to remind myself what a worrywort I can be!